{"id":396,"date":"2010-11-14T17:00:13","date_gmt":"2010-11-14T22:00:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/?p=396"},"modified":"2010-11-14T17:00:13","modified_gmt":"2010-11-14T22:00:13","slug":"coping-with-loss","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/2010\/11\/14\/coping-with-loss\/","title":{"rendered":"Coping with Loss"},"content":{"rendered":"

The end of this month will mark 6 years since my father passed away.\u00a0 It\u2019s hard to believe that it has been so long in some ways, and it other ways, it seems like a lifetime ago since he was with me in the flesh.\u00a0 When he first passed away, I didn\u2019t think I would be able to survive without him.\u00a0 My father and I were close, I would be considered \u201cdaddy\u2019s little girl\u201d by many, and it was a title I wore proudly.\u00a0 When my father was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 1998, the foundation of my world had been completely rocked.\u00a0 I couldn\u2019t imagine my world without my father in it.\u00a0 He was my confidant, my friend, the first person to exemplify what unconditional love looks and feels like.<\/p>\n

My father\u2019s passing and events that took place after that, led me into a state of depression that lasted longer, in hindsight, than it ought to have.\u00a0 While I understood logically that my father\u2019s death meant an end to his physical suffering, emotionally, I didn\u2019t know how to deal with life without his guidance, his understanding, or his love.\u00a0 I was heartbroken, and I didn\u2019t have the tools to deal with my grief in a healthy way.\u00a0 I was angry with God for not listening to my prayers, for not giving me more time with my father.\u00a0 I had never felt so alone as I did in the first few years after the death of my father.\u00a0 It didn\u2019t take much to bring me to tears, or into a fit of rage.<\/p>\n

It took a long time, and a lot of work to reconnect to God.\u00a0 I now understand that even though my father is not with me physically, he is always with<\/em> me.\u00a0 I have a lifetime of wonderful memories of time spent with my dad, and nothing can take that away from me.\u00a0 Those memories put a smile on my face and bring me a joy that I thought I had lost when he died.\u00a0 There are still times in my life where I miss him dearly \u2013 I miss the conversations we had and the ability to give him a massive hug.\u00a0 Those moments when I miss him no longer lead me down a spiral of depression.\u00a0 I realize I am blessed to have had the years I did have with him.\u00a0 There are many children who lose their father very young, or never have the chance to grow up with a father at all.\u00a0 It is said that it is better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all and when I think of the amazing relationship I had with my father, I would have to agree.\u2665
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The end of this month will mark 6 years since my father passed away.\u00a0 It\u2019s hard to believe that it has been so long in some ways, and it other ways, it seems like a lifetime ago since he was with me in the flesh.\u00a0 When he first passed away, I didn\u2019t think I would […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[224,225,226,227],"class_list":["post-396","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-thoughtoftheday","tag-angry-with-god","tag-grief","tag-prayers","tag-state-of-depression"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/396","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=396"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/396\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=396"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=396"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=396"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}