{"id":3976,"date":"2019-07-21T18:45:47","date_gmt":"2019-07-21T18:45:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/?p=3976"},"modified":"2019-07-21T18:45:49","modified_gmt":"2019-07-21T18:45:49","slug":"dealing-with-your-stuff","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/2019\/07\/21\/dealing-with-your-stuff\/","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with your “stuff”"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

I’ll admit that I have mastered the art of avoidance. I\ndon’t like to deal with issues that I know are going to cause discomfort. It’s\ntaken me a long time to realize that there are always going to be people who\nare uncomfortable with my<\/em><\/strong> truth, and that’s totally okay. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I’m going to be 45 next year (!) and while that’s not\nnecessarily a milestone birthday, other things are happening in 2020 that have\nmotivated me to deal with stuff that I’ve been avoiding for far too long. It’s\nfunny how life changes can compel you to do things you haven’t really want to. For\nme, it’s time to deal with these things because I don’t want to carry them into\nthe next phase of my life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s face it, we all have baggage that we’ve accumulated\nover the years. We’ve had amazing experiences and heartbreaking ones and\nthere’s good stuff to hold onto and negative stuff that we need to leave in the\npast. The key is to decipher between the two and truly let go of the stuff we don’t\nneed or is no longer serving us. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes the things we need to deal with aren’t easy. They\nrequire us to have tough conversations with ourselves or with others. They\nchallenge us to be honest and open about why we’ve done things in a certain way\nand what kinds of changes are necessary to move forward in a productive way. I\nhad to take a pause while writing that last statement because I realize I still\nhave a lot of work to do… LOL<\/p>\n\n\n\n

All kidding aside, if we really want to move forward in a\npositive way we have to declutter in ALL areas of our lives. If we want more\ngood to flow into our life, we have to make room for it, and that means letting\ngo of the stuff that’s just been taking up room. As someone who has hoarding tendencies,\nI know that this isn’t always easy, but it is necessary. How can we expect more\nlove, prosperity and happiness in our lives if we’re still holding on to hurt,\nmistakes and bitterness from the past?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The good news is that the work doesn’t have to happen\novernight. The important thing is to get started! Continuing to avoid doing\nwhat needs to be done so that we can move forward in a positive way isn’t going\nto get us where we want to go. We have to identify the stuff that’s been\nweighing us down and develop a plan to release it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I think it’s important to note that you don’t have to do\nthis on your own. Some of the things we need to deal with may require someone\nwith professional training to guide you through the process and that’s okay!\nI’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: asking for help is a sign of\nstrength, not weakness. It takes a great deal of self-awareness to admit that\nyou can’t do it on your own. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I’ve started dealing with my own stuff and I’m happy to\nreport it’s a lot easier than I thought it would be. I’m grateful that I have\nfinally found the courage to confront issues that I’ve been holding on to for\nfar too long and there’s still more work to do. I’m excited to see where this\nnew phase of my life is headed and am committed to travelling light on the\njourney, how about you? <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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