{"id":4017,"date":"2019-10-07T01:05:38","date_gmt":"2019-10-07T01:05:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/?p=4017"},"modified":"2019-10-07T01:05:40","modified_gmt":"2019-10-07T01:05:40","slug":"checking-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/2019\/10\/07\/checking-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"Checking yourself…"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

The other day I found myself getting worked up over things\nthat were completely out of my control. I had to pause and ask myself what I\nreally hoped to accomplish. At the end of the day, I wasn’t going to create the\nreality I <\/em>wanted, so there were two\nchoices: 1) continue to raise my blood pressure, or 2) change the way I chose\nto react to it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The good news is that I chose option #2 \ud83d\ude42  It took me a long time to get to the point\nwhere I sometimes remember that I’m in control of my emotions \ud83d\ude09 All joking\naside, once you get to a point where you’re not always giving control of your\nemotions to someone or something, life starts to flow a lot easier. The month\njust started and I’m already getting good news and new opportunities coming to\nme. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s amazing what letting go can do for you! When you’ve\nbeen in a state of resistance for a long time, it can starts to feel natural,\nbut it isn’t. It can be easy to get stuck in a pattern of negativity where you\nfind yourself always focusing on the bad stuff. When we are in this space,\nthere is little if any room for gratitude. We’ve heard it said enough times\nthat what we focus on expands. So if you want your circumstances to change,\nthen you’re going to have to be willing to do something about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you find yourself in a negative headspace, I think it’s\nimportant to take the time to figure out what’s really bothering you. That can\nbe a process in and of itself, so in the meantime, ask “what is the good I can find in this?”<\/em> It may be as simple\nas not putting yourself the position that has you feeling the way you are at\nthe moment. It might be something that requires changing habits and doing\nthings in a different way. Whatever the answer is in that moment, receive it\nand do something about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If there’s one thing that I’ve learned, it’s that doing\nthings in a different way takes conscious thought and commitment. Whether that\nchange is about the way you think, the way you speak to yourself and others or\nsomething else; it can be easy to go back to old ways of doing things when\nthings get difficult. It takes awareness, time and patience to make effective\nchange that sticks. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you find yourself slipping back into bad habits,\ninstead of beating yourself up about it, be proud of the fact that you’ve grown\nenough to notice what’s happening. There was a time when you were doing those\nthings because that’s all you knew. Now you know more, so you have the capacity\nto do more. Judgement has no place when we’re working on ourselves to become\nmore aware and more conscious of our choices. It doesn’t do anything\nproductive, so it’s a waste of time and energy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Check in on yourself when you’re feeling off. Find a better\nfeeling thought and take it from there. It can be that easy if we release the\nneed to control everything; accept what we can’t change and do something about\nthe things we can. When we focus on the things that are within our power, such\nas our thoughts and our actions, things start to shift in a beautiful way! \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The other day I found myself getting worked up over things that were completely out of my control. I had to pause and ask myself what I really hoped to accomplish. At the end of the day, I wasn’t going to create the reality I wanted, so there were two choices: 1) continue to raise […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4018,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[1803,1879,1880,794,1885,1886,1883,545,1878,1183,1881,502,244,157,1887,1884,537,245,1882],"class_list":["post-4017","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-thoughtoftheday","tag-accountability-coach","tag-attitude-adjustment","tag-attitude-of-gratitude","tag-awareness","tag-best-coach-in-brampton","tag-best-life-coach-in-bramalea","tag-brampton-coach","tag-change-your-thoughts-change-your-life","tag-check-yourself","tag-conscious-choices","tag-conscious-thought","tag-embrace-your-destiny","tag-judgement","tag-life-coach","tag-lifestyle-strategist","tag-mississauga-coach","tag-sandra-dawes","tag-self-awareness","tag-self-development"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4017","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4017"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4017\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4019,"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4017\/revisions\/4019"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4018"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4017"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4017"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/harbirzinc.com\/sandradawes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4017"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}